I doubt it will take you several years before you love again. Everyone has feelings for their exs. I still occationally feel a momentary pang of sadness when specific things about Heather come up. I still got a bit angry when Heather started a RPG with Tim that we were originally planning on playing together, without even asking me if I wanted to join. I still don't feel very comfortable interacting with her even on a friendly level.
You can still have feelings for an ex while having feelings for someone new. That's just the way it goes, I think.
My mom asked me today if you were "officially my girlfriend" yet. While she didn't technically assume anything, it was awfully close. So you could add her to the list as well.
a "not knowing what's going to happen" feelings is ok. Hell, I think most of the people of this world feel the same way about most things. I know I do.
I remember when you and Trae were on either side of me in a car (going to see Corpse Bride) and started making out right in front of me. Then you both made up by kissing me on the cheek.
I remember you, speaking in a terrible Scottish accent, trying to steal my wallet right out of my pants pocket, with Leah. Numerous times. Sometimes it was funny, sometimes it wasn't. Oh, what a terrible accent.
Or hell, start a band. I play base, Andy could do guitar, Trae, you can sing and do harmonica or keyboard. All we need is Chris here or Carlos to learn drums, and we'd be set to start the "Guys Who Once Dated Heather" band. It'd be awesome.
When two people have similar interests, or some other kind of connection, there's going to be some overlap of self, so to speak. If you like to spend time with the other person, you will start to do a lot with them, and even, perhaps, pick up idiosyncrasies from that person. This overlap can be an issue only when the people cannot do things separately. When they live only for the other, and cannot have a life of their own. Otherwise, it's just closeness to the other person, which isn't a bad thing.
Tell me if that's what you meant by 'lack of separation of self', because really, it's a vague term.
If they're the Vash and Knives that I know (which are the only cats I've ever heard of with those names) then, yes Trae, they are living, and doing quite well the last time I checked. (Living at Tim's parent's house still? I can't be sure, now.) The last time I checked, though, was about three months ago.
Fasting slows your metabolism, and makes you hungry. Not only that, but when you do go ahead and eat, you eat more than you should. You shouldn't eat all the time
(some breaks are definatly necessary), but you also don't need to go that long without eating either.
Love is not all there is to life. It cannot be all there is; love can't fill all your needs. Love can be a part of it, love can be a nice and good part of your life, but that is what it is: a part. If love is ALL you need, you have a very empty life. Sad but true in my mind.
-It's fun, and I like it. I'll say that first.
-It's hard to move your ship at any decent speed. It makes it challenging to navigate the walls with any accuracy, as well as making it really difficult (especially once it starts going faster) to get any powerups at all.
-The bosses cycle, and aren't really tough at all. Just stay in the middle and fire at the eye, that's it. If the eye shot missiles or something, maybe...
-Oh, and if you do high score stuff, consider increasing your score based on which time number you start on, because the game is obviously harder the faster it goes.
I would think you'd run into problems if/when one of the boys wanted more than just their third. Ie, the boy you're emotionally compatible with wanted some physical contact to go along with the emotion, etc. It'd be a mess. Only in an ideal world could you keep it all straight and simple. Ah well, at least you can dream.
The most I can say, based on my slight personal experiences in these matters, is to talk to him about it. Tell him what you're feeling and how you both should handle it.
When Heather broke up with me, I started to find out a lot of things that she didn't like about our relationship that she never told me about. And because of that, I didn't think anything was wrong until she told me we should just be friends. Then I thought to myself that if I had known beforhand that I was doing things she didn't like, then I could've worked on them and things might've been better.
I'll be wanting to get out of the house, especially before school starts, so I'd be up for the first brainspike, at least. I like Firefly too, so I'll probably be up for that as well.
I'd be good to see some school friends instead of the friends I've been seeing all summer.
